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We Are Not What We Do

We are trained early on to associate our identity with our employment.  When asked, “What do you do?”, we don’t answer with our hobbies or the time we spend with our families.  Instead, we tell them our job title.  But when we are unhappy with our employment, it is possible we become unhappy with our identity.  I sometimes fall into this category and consequently tend to lose a sense of who I am.

But what happens when we can’t just fire our employer and travel the world or start our own company?  Most of us have responsibilities and needs that require a paycheck.  But we also need to know who we are and what our purpose is.  That is important too.

How do we fix it?

Step 1: Stop associating our job with who we are as people.  It’s not the easiest step, but in order to be happier, we have to separate the two.

Step 2: Determine what we like doing.  Instead of focusing on the negative of the job, let’s focus on the positives of our lives.

Step 3: Take action.  When the job is frustrating, take a deep breath.  Anytime you have a free moment, step away.  When you are at home, be at home.  Do not let the job consume all of your time.  If it’s not enjoyable, why let it take up even more time from what you do enjoy?

Remember it for what it is…a job.  It is a means to an end.  For many of us, it isn’t the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it is not who we are.  Personally It doesn’t change who I am as a wife, mother, or daughter.  It doesn’t change my love of reading and writing.

The next time someone asks you “What do you do?”  Give them a different answer.  Tell them how much you love hiking on the weekends, knitting, or planning parties for family events. Let’s give people the opportunity to really know what we like to do!

So, what do you do?

xo, Lauren

2 Replies

  1. Botanic Bleu

    Lauren,
    Amen! I was guilty of answering with my job title all my career, but I was very proud of what I did, teaching high school math, then a school administrator. Since retirement, I tell what I do, but it is now more of mixed answer that includes hobbies as well as part-time jobs.

    1. Thank you Judy! I think it’s amazing when people are lucky to find jobs they are passionate about. I’m glad you have new answers to give to the question as well.

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